Most times guys mean well on a first date, really they do. BUT....sometimes they do (or don't do) things that get them a strike....or two....or sometimes even 3 strikes on the first date. How can you prevent this from being you? Hopefully the following list will help you. This list is "door to door" from the time you pick your date up, until you drop her off at the door. This is not in order of importance.
1. Do NOT be late. - If you say you're gonna be there @ 7:00, be there @ 6:58, not 6:40 (we're still trying to pick out our shoes) and not 7:15 (we're getting impatient).
2. Do NOT bring flowers. - It says you're trying to hard, & we don't know how to respond. We don't know whether to shake your hand, give you a hug, or leave you standing at the front door while we take them immediately to put them in water.
3. DO open the car door for us. - It says you're a gentleman, and your momma taught you well.
4. Do NOT TELL us where we are going to eat. ASK us where we would like to go. It is best to say, I thought about going to A,B, or C, which would you like? If you just ask where we would like to go, we do not know what your budget is. We don't want to suggest something too cheap, nor do we want to suggest something to expensive. We don't know if you're on a McDonalds budget, a Ruby Tuesday budget, or a Ruth's Chris budget. If you give us choices, we still have the "control" of choosing the restaurant, but you have given us a guide.
5. Do NOT talk about yourself the entire time. Ask us questions about our life. Girls like to talk about themselves. :)
6. Have a plan for after dinner. Be creative, every date does not have to include a trip to see a movie.
7. If it is raining, please drop us off at the door. Do NOT park in the parking lot, and then not even offer an umbrella or a rain coat.
8. Do NOT run out of fuel. Please make sure your gas tank has sufficient fuel to get you through the night!
9. Do NOT talk about ANY previous relationships!
10. Walk us back to the front door, give a side hug, and say good night, unless of course, you are invited in.
Stay tuned for "you survived the first date, how to get a second date"....
happy dating! `A
Very nice Andrea.. however- I like big hugs at the end not side hugs.. but that's just my opinion.
ReplyDeleteGreat advice! I'd agree with you...side hugs only!
ReplyDeleteMegan, it depends on the guy! Sometimes I'd rather even have a handshake :) If I really like them, then sure, I'd like a FFH (full frontal hug) BUT you never know on a first date if the other one really likes you or not, so a side hug is safe.
ReplyDeleteLoved this one!
ReplyDeleteI side hug my parents. If I've accepted a date from you A.) there's attraction B.) I better get a (like your description) FFH. I need to know that you enjoyed the date, it's not a friend thing, & that the date has accomplished it's mission...drawn us closer.
ReplyDeleteGood job Shel! Should you go on a date with a guy if you would only want a handshake??? haha
ReplyDeleteHey Andrea!
ReplyDeleteI am loving these rules, except for the flowers things...I do want the flowers...and for him to make the first date dinner choice...if he asks me out he can plan the date...
Keep up the hilarity!