the parentals

Q: What do you do if you don't like your boy/girlfriend's parents?

A: Well, first of all, no matter what people tell you, you don't just marry the person, you marry their family. We may come from different family structures, but we all have family. Families are a part of our lives....forever. The next thing you need to ask yourself is what is it about the parent(s) you do not like? Is it a trait that is easily overlooked, or is it a deal breaker? If the answer is deal breaker, then you need to get out now. If it is a trait you can live with, then ask yourself how frequently will you being seeing the parents? Will you see them multiple times a week, or only a few times per year? Then, remember that these parents will one day (possibly) be your children's grandparents. How much influence do his/her parents have on him/her? Will it affect a marriage? Will it affect how you parent your children? Also remember a LOT of people end up "turning into" their parents! Is it a trait that will eventually come out in your future partner?

I know I mainly gave a lot of "to think abouts" but there is no right or wrong answer, you just need to decide what you want, what you are willing to put up with, and then decide if this guy/girl is worth pursuing further!

happy dating! `A